Losing Trust In Your Own Judgment With Deborah Twelves
Having faith in the choices you make can be difficult when your decision-making ability comes into question. My guest today is Deborah Twelves, acclaimed author of the book “Twenty Years a Stranger.” Deborah’s life was turned upside down when she discovered her husband of 20 years had been leading multiple lives with at least four different women – even fathering children with at least two of them. My conversation with Deborah explores the heart-breaking events she endured, why she began questioning her own judgement, and her journey to building self-trust again.
- Deborah joins the podcast by discussing her marriage and how she learned of her husband’s infidelity. [2:42]
- The four separate lives her husband was living are discussed. [5:43]
- Deborah explains the impacts and her feelings regarding her husband’s confession. [6:42]
- How Deborah’s lack of trust in herself materialized in her life is touched on. [8:14]
- The impact of betrayal is discussed. [8:53]
- Deborah tells the journey of how she pieced together her husbands lies. [11:21]
- Moving forwards is difficult; Deborah discusses how she began to rebuild her trust in herself and move forward. [15:59]
- Deborah discusses the factors that made her decide to write her book. [20:23]
- The steps that Deborah took to begin feeling like herself again are explained. [22:46]
- Moments of self-doubt during the writing process are touched on. [23:51]
- Learning to trust again is discussed. [25:37]
- Deborah tells us the biggest lesson she has learned and the advice she has for others. [27:20]
- Deborah talks about her next book “Ghost of a Stranger”. [31:09]